Hello Ladies!
This will be the first part of three blogs because the topic I am going to be diving into, is a pretty juicy one! So the topic I want to touch upon with you is money. I am sure a lot of you reading this right now, want to make more money in your life. You want to create more abundance, more wealth and I am also going to guess that you want to make money in a way that feels good. You don’t just want to have millions in the bank, but to have to sacrifice a lot to have that kind of money. To miss out on time with your family and time with your loved ones, to have to completely exhaust yourself having to reach your income goals.
So money has been a big part of my story. When I first started my business, I really didn’t have a lot of money, in fact I had less than any money because I was in debt. For those of you that has experienced being in debt I am sure you will know that it places this huge emotional weight over your shoulders. At the time I was blaming my finances on a lot of external things.
I at the time was living in London, so I would always say London is just so expensive, rent is so expensive, this is why I am broke. I would also blame the fact that I was a shopaholic. I would say I just can’t help myself, I just go shopping all the time and I spend whatever I have. I would also blame the fact that I didn’t get paid enough, I needed to have a certain income, I felt like my income wasn’t matching what I needed and so I was blaming all of these things that are external to me as to why my financial situation looked the way it did. Just to give you an idea of what the state my finances were in I was around £20,000 worth in debt.
Now, I just want to take a second to contrast that with what my finances are today, and this is largely down to the money mindset work that I have done. So remember that place where I said I was in £20,000 worth in debt, not only that my living situation wasn’t great either, my partner and I lived in a flat with way to many flat mates and we lived in the living room. My partner was only earning £3.50 an hour as an apprentice, and so financially we was not in a good place.
Fast forward to today and thankfully things have changed. In fact my business today generates around the six-figure mark per month, so that’s £100,000 per month and some months it can be more than that. So just as an example, the month that has just passed we made £150,000, however some months can be under but it is always usually around that figure. This is per month so is definitely a huge shift from where we were to where we are now. Of course there are lots of things that I have done to get here, and lots of action steps I have taken. However, I know that it is the reason for my money mindset that has been the change of my finances. This is why it has become a huge part of the work that I do with our students in The Clique Academy because money mindset factors hugely into this. Making money is not just about what you do it is largely about what you think, what you believe and what your energy is saying.
I am going to give you an overview of money mindset work and what it is all about. Where I want to start with this, is the basic principles of The Law Of Attraction. Our beliefs and our energy create our reality. However you are showing up energetically is going to dictate what you are going to experience in your physical world.
Now, let’s start with beliefs. A lot of people will think they believe certain things around money, in that they will think ‘I believe I want to have more money’ or ‘I believe I want to be rich’. So they have these surface ideas of what they believe they think about money, but these are just conscious beliefs. But beliefs form into two parts. Conscious surface beliefs and the hidden subconscious, and these are often beliefs that we have had from a very young age that have been locked into our subconscious mind that we perhaps aren’t even aware that they exist. Often when we start digging our way around our beliefs about money, we start to identify some of these hidden beliefs. We realise that the beliefs that we have perhaps do not match the reality that we want to create.
So let me give you an example- How many of you as a child heard the phrase ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’, or maybe you experienced something in your childhood that made you feel that money is scarce, that there was a lack of money or maybe you have been taught that being money motivated is greedy. These are actually examples from my money story and the stories from my clients of things that they have led to believe about money. So these things we hear from, parents, teachers or society, especially when it is something that is taught to us at a young age it can become apart of our belief system without us becoming aware of it. So then later in adult life, we find ourselves self-sabotaging when it comes to money, perhaps repelling money, making decsions that hinder our finances and we wonder why this has happened and it is because of this deeply engraved belief system.
So let’s say for example as a child you experienced your father working really hard and sacrificing a lot of his family time, in order to make money. From that experience it shaped your belief system, so seeing that over and over again led you to believe that making money is hard work. What do you think happens when you move into your adult life and say I want to create more money for myself. If you really believe that making money is hard work, you are going to recreate that in your reality where you will be trying to make money but it will constantly feel like it is hard work.
You will create experience for yourself when making money becomes hard work and it becomes harder than what it needs to be, because your reality will automatically match your belief system. What may also happen is that people may sabotage when it comes to making money and hold themselves back because a part of them doesn’t want to have to work hard, they don’t want to experience the burnout.
This is something that I noticed in my life and when I came into my business a big part of me wanted to create more freedom. I wanted to changed my finances but I also wanted to create more freedom for myself. I found myself very quickly going back to these same patterns of working really hard, burnout,overwhelmed. Even though I was in control of my own workload and was in control of when I worked, how many hours I worked, how much time I gave to my business and even though I was completely in control of that I still found myself in these same patterns of working really hard to the point where I was feeling exhausted. But of course it was because my belief system was creating this reality.
So this is a big part of money mindset and is about identifying what are your beliefs about money. A lot of us come into this world and think of course I want to be rich, but it is only when we start peeling back the layers and only really going into the deep routed subconscious that we realise that we have all of these negative beliefs around money.
So the question you need to ask yourself is ‘What do I need to believe about money if I want to have more money in my life and I also want to make money in a way that feels really good?’.
So coming back to that belief around making money has to be hard work, you may want to manifest more money into your life and I am sure you want that to be an inspiring process that leaves you feeling empowered not burned out. Therefore you need to believe that making money can be fun and joyful. You have to believe that if you want to make it into your reality.
So beliefs shape your reality but as I said so does your energy. We are all made up of energy, money is energy, humans are energy and we all have our own vibrational frequency. If you were to look at your hand under a powerful microscope you will see that it is not solid and it is made up of vibrating particles. Between these particles are energy and this is our frequency and everything vibrates at a different frequency. Either low or high, and we magnetize everything into our life’s everything that we are a vibrational match to. So if we are vibrating in a positive frequency we are going to attract people, things, experiences, money into our life. So when it comes to changing our finances, we have to be vibrating at the frequency of the wealth that we want to attract. Now if you are new to this work you may be thinking what is this and to be honest when I first started that is what I was thinking, until I started to pay attention to it and I could see the changes. From changing my energy the finances started to change.
So I am going to go into this in much more detail in other blogs to come, but for now I just want to explain the two different types of energy and how this comes into play. We all vibrate and we all have a frequency but often what can happen is we can hold on to that negative energy that causes us to repel money coming into our lives. So when we are talking about negative money energy, this might mean when you have had a bad relationship with money, that memory you hold onto can look like negative energy you store in your body.
So from my experience my debts were a big part of my money story and what this debt looked like to me was shame and guilt. I was blaming myself for how I had reacted to my finances and those emotions are low frequency emotions. I therefore had to let go of that negative energy so I could open myself up for receiving more. That is one part of the energy work and the second part is raising your vibration, so you become a vibrational match to wealth.
This was something that took me a while to get used to but this is again something that I will go into on further down the line in these blogs. But it is really about aligning your thought, beliefs and energy to the higher version of you that has already manifested the money that she wants to attract. When you can master that the gates will open for you to the point where you wonder where it has been all along. It will start to feel like money is following effortlessly and easily into your life to the point where you think why didn’t I discover this work sooner.
Going from the place of being in a massive amount of debt to now my company making £100,000 per month that is a pretty big shift and this has largely to do with my beliefs and shifts around money and energy. In fact I would say 90% of the changes I have made I bring it down to the mindset work I have done.
A lot of people say what did you have to do to get your business to where you want it to be and honestly it has been so little about what I have done and more about who I have been.
So I am going to go into money energy in more detail. Of course I have taken more action and this is where taking inspired action comes into it. You clearly just can’t sit in a empty room wishing about money and having this positive energy and just expect it to flow into your life, you have to be taking some inspired action. This is an action that feels good to you and action that keeps you high vibe. There is no point in doing a lot of energy work and then taking action that leaves you feeling stressed and burnt out. So for me this was my business, this is the thing I love doing and I am hugely passionate about, I love coaching and working with my clients and my business is the thing that brings me huge amounts of joy.
I have to be careful not to slip into that uninspired action by working to hard and getting myself stressed out and I have noticed there is a definite link to my finances to when I have pushed myself to hard at work. Again, this is the work done on my beliefs system, I thought that if I do more I will receive more money. But actually the harder I have worked the less money I earn. The more exhausted I am and stressed out I am by trying to do too much the less I earn in my business. There has been months where I have worked in a joyful way, lots of self love and self care, travel etc these have always been the months where I have seen the spikes in income.
Once you have done the work on your beliefs and energy and you’re taking lots of inspired actions you then have to surrender to the universe. You have to allow the universe to bring money into your life by detaching from the outcome. So a lot of people when it comes to their finances especially business owners, they will be acting from a place of ‘when is this money going to appear? and ‘What do I need to do to get to this certain outcome?’. Without realising the money flows the moment you de-tach from the outcome and the moment you show up into your business from a place of I am doing this for the pure fact that this is bringing me joy and taking inspired action therefore I trust that I am going to receive the money at exactly the moment I am meant to receive it and I am completely surrendering to that outcome and I am showing up as if this is already present in my life. This is the part of the process where everybody finds the most difficult. That fully handing things over to the universe and that the money is just around the corner and is going to show up in your life at any giving moment.
Most people aren’t very good at being patient. Let’s say there is a gap between you taking inspired action and the money showing up, within that manifestation gap and you are waiting for the money to show up, that is when most people start to question things. This is when they start to fall back into these patterns of doing more, working harder, and by doing that they are falling out of this alignment. So patience is a really big thing.
So hopefully that gives you a understanding of what money mindset is all about. It is about figuring out your beliefs around money mindset on a conscious and a subconscious level. Are you holding onto any negative energy that you need to let go of, maybe you handed your financial power over to someone else, maybe they took advantage of you financially and that’s caused negative money energy.
So letting go of that energy but then also raising your money frequency so that you are becoming that vibrational match to wealth. Taking inspired action and then surrendering to the universe, trusting that the money is already on it’s way.
You just need to sit and wait and take that inspired action and it’s going to show up.
Dani Watson – CEO and Founder of The Clique